There are probably a very few things in the world that are more exciting than being able to experience falling in love with someone who loves you in return. It’s exhilarating. It’s amazing. It’s beautiful. It’s always great when you are able to establish a connection with someone; and you make a conscious decision to build on that connection as a couple. You pour your heart and soul into making sure that you stay intimate and in love with one another for as long as you possibly can. However, things don’t always go according to plan when it comes to love and relationships.
The excitement rarely ever lasts for too long. The intimacy doesn’t always stay the same over time. Couples grow apart – and when that happens, it’s always unfortunate. It’s always sad to see a perfectly happy love go to waste. It hurts whenever you have to break up with a man that you’re so deeply in love with. But it hurts even more when you get broken up with – especially when you get taken by surprise with a breakup. Now it’s important to make this point clear: all breakups are going to hurt. But you have to acknowledge the fact that a breakup is going to hurt substantially less if you’re going to be able to prepare yourself for it.
There are multiple reasons for this. For one, if you know that a breakup is coming, you can still do some things to try and salvage your relationship. And if it doesn’t work out even after that, then at least you will have peace of mind in knowing that you did everything you could to save it. So it always pays to have a good eye in your relationship. You must always make it a point to stay on top of things in your relationship so that you don’t end up getting blindsided by anything.
You don’t want to be complacent. You don’t want to be taking your relationship for granted. Part of being a responsible adult in a relationship is being mature enough to stay vigilant. If you notice that your man is exhibiting a lot of the signs listed on here, then it’s highly likely that he’s thinking about breaking up with you.
1. He no longer opens up to you about his day-to-day life.
He doesn’t feel the need to really make you feel included in his life anymore. He doesn’t want to share his life with you even on a mundane and shallow level. He wants to keep to himself more and more.
2. He doesn’t go to you when he has important news to share.
Even when significant things take place in his life, it’s as if he doesn’t feel compelled to tell you about them anymore. He doesn’t care much for sharing important news to you anymore.
3. He encourages you to engage in more activities without him.
He doesn’t really want to spend much time with you anymore. He doesn’t express a direct interest in the things that you’re most interested in.
4. He acts annoyed whenever he’s with you.
He has a general air of irritation and annoyance about him whenever you’re together. He seems like he’s in a perpetual bad mood.
5. He compares you to other girls; or your relationship to someone else’s.
He is doing this to make you feel bad. He is doing this to deliberately hurt you. He is expressing his displeasure in a very passive-aggressive way. He pushes you to try to be better by actually pointing out how much better other people are than you.
6. He spends more time looking at his phone than at you during dates.
He doesn’t care much for spending quality time with you at this point. He is much more interested in the outside world than he is in your relationship.
7. He stops making an effort to be romantic towards you.
He doesn’t really seem invested in the relationship anymore. He isn’t putting much effort into trying to stay intimate with you. He isn’t really interested in trying to keep your relationship afloat; to keep your love intact.
8. He rehashes old arguments with you a lot.
He’s just trying to let all of his anger out; and he’s looking for various ways to do so. One of the easiest ways to do that is to just bring up old arguments for the sake of arguing with you.
9. He doesn’t keep his promises to you anymore.
He doesn’t care much about keeping his word to you anymore. He doesn’t care about your feelings. He doesn’t care about what you think of him; of how tarnished your trust for him might be.
10. He constantly criticizes you even about the little things.
He wants to make you feel bad about who you are as a partner. He is slowly making you feel worse and worse about the little kinks in your personality that irritate him. He’s doing this as a means of conditioning you with his displeasure surrounding you and your relationship.