No one should ever have to put up with the stresses and perils that come with being in a toxic relationship. You always want to make sure that you are in a relationship with someone who loves you in the most genuine and sincerest manner possible. You would never want to find yourself feeling so down and broken just because of your relationship. You would never want to be subjected to the turmoil and trouble when you get into a toxic relationship with someone.
But it happens a lot. It’s very much possible that you would find yourself in a toxic relationship with someone. You may not have known at the start that they were toxic. You may have only seen the best parts of their personality in the earlier parts of your relationship. You might not have noticed that they had toxic tendencies. And yet, you found yourself in this position. Should you stay? Should you go?
You were always taught that relationships aren’t designed to be easy or simple. You were always told that you need to work hard to make your relationships last. You have always been encouraged to stay through the hard times in your relationship. And that is all great advice. A relationship is never designed to be easy. However, what you have to understand is that a relationship is never designed to be toxic either.
You might be convincing yourself to stay in a toxic relationship even though you really shouldn’t be there anymore. Your excuses are invalid. And they should never be enough reason for you to stay in a toxic relationship with someone:
1. You don’t want to traumatize your children.
Studies have actually shown that growing up in a toxic family environment is more traumatic than being children of divorce or separations.
2. You think that they’re going to change someday.
It is always wrong for you to assume that a person is just eventually going to change in your relationship. It doesn’t work that way at all. The person you get into a relationship with is likely to carry the same fundamental values and principles all throughout.
3. You can’t find the right time to break up.
There’s never a right time to say goodbye and breakup. You’re just going to have to do it right away and get it over with. You can’t keep on waiting for the perfect day to break up with your partner.
4. You are afraid that you won’t find someone better.
You should never be afraid of getting out of a relationship just because you don’t think you won’t be able to find someone better. You are never assured of success in love and relationships. But if it’s not meant for you, then you owe it to yourself to break away from it.
5. You think that they’re kind people underneath.
Contrary to popular belief, it’s still perfectly possible for a kind person to be in a toxic relationship. Sometimes, your incompatibility and poor chemistry can be the source of all the toxicity in your romance. And kindness will have nothing to do with it.
6. You have close relationships with his family and friends.
Not all people you get close to in life are meant to stay there forever. Sometimes, you’re going to have to break away from people who aren’t supposed to be in your life anymore. You need to be able to burn bridges between yourself and those who are only holding you back or bringing you down.
7. You are too afraid of being on your own.
You can never allow your fear of being on your own keep you from separating yourself from someone who is clearly bad for you. It’s always a lot better for you to fend for yourself rather than stay in a relationship that is clearly causing you a lot more harm than good.
8. You still have great sex.
Having really great sex in a relationship is always a good thing for any relationship. However, sex isn’t going to be everything. Having strong physical intimacy in the bedroom isn’t going to be enough to compensate for the level of toxicity in your relationship.
9. You think that he’s only going through a phase.
You might try to make all sorts of excuses for him to be acting this way. You might convince yourself that he’s just having a hard time at work. You might think that he’s just going through a rough patch. But none of these things are ever enough reason to be toxic.
10. You have grown desensitized to all of the toxicity.
You should never be willing to turn a blind eye to all the toxicity in a relationship. It’s never something that you should ever grow used to or comfortable with. You should always be standing up for yourself. And you should always demand to be treated better.