New relationships are fragile, handle with care.
It’s an exhilarating feeling when you first get into a relationship with someone. There’s nothing quite like it actually. There’s a whirlwind of emotions and you feel like you just want to unload all of them unto your partner. You want to be completely open and you just can’t wait to talk about anything and everything under the sun. And while there are some things that can wait for when you are really deep into your romance, there are also certain topics that you have to be willing to talk about in the early parts of the relationship. Not to say that you have to make your life an open book right on the first date, but you have to make sure that you touch on these topics when you feel like you’re really going steady in your relationship. If you start to find out that you and your partner have the potential to be something really serious, then you need to have the gall to bring these things up during conversations.
Again, you don’t have to be completely open especially when it’s still the early stages of your relationship. You are still entitled to your sense of privacy in your romance. But gradually, you are going to have to bring your walls down if you want the relationship to flourish. And there is substantial difficulty in having to time the appropriate moments of bringing these topics up. But that doesn’t make them any less necessary. You have to understand that the more open you become to one another, the better overall it will be for your relationship.
Bringing up supposedly taboo topics during conversations in an early relationship will also give you a good idea as to how serious your partner really is. The more receptive they will be of these conversational advances, then the better chances that they are actually willing to stay together with you for long stretches. They wouldn’t want to be having these conversations with you if they didn’t think that you had a shot at actually being something better.
1. Your future goals and dreams.
Even early on in your relationship, you have to be willing to discuss your dreams and goals. You need to know if your visions of the future are actually compatible. And the only way to do that is if the both of you open up about what your dreams are.
2. Your individual sexual preferences.
If you know that sex is on the table for your relationship, then you need to open up to one another about it. You really need to be able to talk about your sexual preferences and tendencies in an effort to be open to one another. It’s also the only way for you to really know how to please each other in bed.
3. Your personal present or past addictions.
If you have an addiction (or if you have had any addictions in the past), you need to be able to bring these up to your partner. You don’t want to keep them in the dark with any demons that you might be dealing with on your own.
4. Your mental health status.
Similar to the previous item listed on here, you need to really be open to your partner about your own mental health. For one, they could help you navigate your way through your mental problems. And second, they deserve to know if you’re going to be mentally unstable with them.
5. Your family life.
While you don’t necessarily have to go into detail about what all of your family members are like, you need to give your partner a good glimpse into what your life was like growing up with your family. This is important because it gives them a valuable perspective into how you were raised.
6. Your financial management philosophy.
If you are thrifty or extravagant, your partner needs to know about it. Money might not matter early in a relationship, but it’s definitely going to matter the longer that you stay together.
7. Your dietary restrictions or allergic reactions.
This may not be an issue for most people, but it’s important to talk about dietary restrictions early in a relationship for a lot of special cases. You will want to know if your partner is a vegan and you’re a meat-lover yourself.
8. Your physical health issues.
Any sicknesses you might have? Again, this might not be an issue for most people. But if you’re terminally ill, then that’s information you might want to be disclosing to your partner.
9. Your romantic history.
You shouldn’t be bringing up exes on a first date. But that doesn’t mean you should totally ignore your romantic histories throughout the stretch of your relationship. Be mature about it and discuss your romantic experiences with one another when you’re ready to do so.
10. Your ideas of what it means to be happy.
And lastly, you need to talk about what makes you happy. That’s the only way either of you will both be able to determine if you can make each other happy or not.
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