Save yourself before it’s too late.
If you’re with a truly mature man in a relationship, he would actually have the courage to just outright break things off with you if he feels like things are less than ideal. He understands that it would be entirely wrong for him to be leading you on. He wouldn’t want to be ambiguous with his intentions and his feelings at all. He wouldn’t want you to be kept in the dark in your own relationship. But alas, not all men are like that. In fact, there are so many men who aren’t like that. These men are cowardly and they really don’t know how to go about telling a girl that they want to break up. And so they take a passive-aggressive approach to things.
If you are unfortunate enough to be in a relationship with the latter kind of man, then you have to make sure that you understand the subtext of his behavior. You don’t want to get blindsided with a breakup so you have to know how to read between the lines. Here are 12 things your man does that mean you’re headed for a breakup:
1. He drops subtle hints about how you would be much happier without him.
He is already trying to condition your mind into thinking that you would be happier without him. He wants you to be envisioning a life outside of the relationship because the truth is that he’s no longer happy anymore. He knows that he would be happier if you break up and he is hoping that you feel the same way.
2. He uncharacteristically overdoes it with the compliments.
He is just trying to soften the blow. He’s buttering you up, but he’s essentially going to toast you in the end too. Sure. It’s normal to have your man throw compliments your way. But it’s not normal for him to be overdoing it. You know your man, and if you feel like his compliments are a little out of place, you know something is up.
3. He will find a way to criticize you in everything you do.
He will make you feel bad; he will make you feel like you’re not good enough for him or for the relationship. So when he actually decides to break up with you, he will have a justifiable reason for doing so.
4. He will be in a perpetual bad mood.
The relationship is making him a sad and a bitter person. And low-key, he blames you for it. But the truth is that he hates himself for not having the courage to just end things with you. So there is a lot of bitterness and resentment within him that is directed at you, at the relationship, and at himself as well.
5. He slowly starts to distance himself from your friends and family.
He will really start to isolate himself from everything in your life. He will start to kill whatever connections he may have to anything that concerns you.
6. He tells you about how crappy of a guy he really is.
He wants you to think about how crappy of a man he is. If he can convince you that he’s a really terrible guy, he might succeed at getting himself off of the hook. If you realize how bad he is and you break up with him, then he won’t have to be the one who has to end things for the both of you. He is essentially hoping you act on his behalf.
7. He stops putting in the effort in the relationship.
He is no longer invested in the relationship. He hates being in it and he doesn’t want to put in the effort to really make things work with you anymore. He doesn’t want to be the one who ends it; but he isn’t going to be the one who saves it either.
8. He often asks you if you’re genuinely happy.
He really wants to make you question your own happiness in the relationship. He really wants you to think about the turns your relationship has taken. He wants you to come to the realization that he has practically already come to himself: this relationship is no longer a happy or fulfilling one.
9. He spends more time with his friends than he does with you.
He is slowly and subtly telling you that you are no longer worth his time. He wants you to think that he no longer thinks of you as someone he would really want to spend most of his time with. He can’t tell you this because he’s too afraid; but he wants you to feel it with his actions.
10. He has deliberately canceled future plans with you.
He cancels on future plans because he doesn’t want to be leading you on more than he already has. He doesn’t want to give you anything to look forward to in the relationship because he’s practically checked out himself. The relationship has no future and he knows it. He just wishes you would see it too.
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