4. It was only a moment of weakness on my part.
It wasn’t just a moment of weakness. We all get our moments of weakness. We get weak whenever we’re tempted to eat that extra slice of pizza. We get tempted to splurge all our savings on toys and clothes. We also get weak whenever we’re sexually attracted to someone, but it’s not an excuse for acting on our temptations. That’s another story entirely.
5. But you’ve been really distant lately!
Typical cheater mentality. He tries to absolve himself of the incident by passing the blame on you. It’s your fault that he cheated. Apparently, it was your own fault that he chose to engage in sexual relations with other women. Certainly, he never would have cheated on you if it were just up to him. You had a role to play in the incident also.
6. She’s only a friend!
She’s not. Friends don’t engage in romantic and sexual relationships with people who just happen to already be engaged in a relationship with other people. She’s not just a friend. She’s a side-chick and if he’s not ashamed of cheating on you, then he shouldn’t be ashamed of admitting it.
7. She’s the one you should blame!
Blame anyone except him. Apparently, she raped him from the way he’s trying to reason his way out. He’s talking as if the sex wasn’t consensual. No, it’s not entirely her fault. He is also just as much to blame as she is and you shouldn’t let him off the hook so easily.
8. It was only sex. It’s you I’m in love with.
Sex is never only sex. Never allow him to downplay the severity of his actions. It wasn’t just sex. It was a betrayal of trust. Yes, he may still be in love with you but the fact of the matter is that he still cheated on you despite the love.