If you are currently in a deep romantic relationship with someone; and you happen to have a fairly active sex life, then it’s likely that you are going to have certain goals and expectations. You might want to aim for being the best sexual partner that your man has ever had. You want to make sure that you really know that you are doing enough to keep him satisfied and happy in the bedroom. You also want to do your part in ensuring that he only has eyes for you; that he doesn’t get excited at the thought of doing it with anyone else other than you. These are some very reasonable goals to have, but that doesn’t meant hat they’re going to be easy.
How can you know for sure that you’re being the best he has ever had? How do you know if he’s not just faking the delight and satisfaction that he’s expressing to you about your sex life? It’s perfectly normal for you to wonder about what your partner thinks of you as a sexual creature. It’s part of relationships. It’s human nature. And it’s always really tricky to gauge satisfaction in that department.You can be having really hot, steamy, and passionate sex. But even that might not be enough to keep you from questioning and doubting yourself; that might not even be enough to suppress your deepest anxieties and insecurities.
You can’t help but wonder to yourself if you’re actually living up to his ideas of what the perfect woman would be like. And you try to think about what else you could possibly do to live up to that ideal. You might not think of it in this manner, but that is actually a very subtle form of anxiety and insecurity. And if you don’t learn to control it, it could end up destroying both you and your relationship. That’s why you need to be able to understand what these anxieties are, where they are coming from, and what you need to do to deal with them. Keep in mind that these aren’t necessarily things that you are dealing with on your own.
There are countless women all over the world who are filled with these kinds of insecurities; and a lot of them don’t necessarily know how to handle it. To gain better control over your personal insecurities and anxieties, it’s best to take a more structured approach to thinking about them. The better you understand them, the better equipped you will be to actually handle them. Again, it’s important that you don’t let these insecurities gain control over you and your relationship.
You always want to make sure that you are the one who stays in control. You want to make sure that you are establishing peace and harmony within yourself so that you don’t end up creating a toxic atmosphere in your own relationship. You always want to be giving yourself the best shot at making your relationship work; and bulk of that has to do with you being able to handle your insecurities better.
1. “My body just isn’t sexy enough for him.”
Confidence is key. That is a phrase that has been lamented many times over and it still rings true today. You need to believe that you are sexy if you really want to convince him that you’re sexy. Remember, he’s dating you and he is having sex with you. He already sees you as sexy. He sees you as a viable sexual partner. He already believes that you are a sexy lady, so why can’t you do the same? If you need a little boost, try wearing some sexy underwear that you feel really flatters how you look. It’s all about altering your perspective and convincing yourself that you are far from what your insecurities are telling you.
2. “I’m just not all that good at having sex in general.”
You want to know the real secret? The best kind of sex is the kind that is free-flowing and easygoing. It’s the kind of sex that is completely natural, organic, and unforced. It’s the kind of sex that is fun and without pressure. Stop placing so much pressure on yourself to act a certain way or to get into certain positions. Just go with the flow. Learn to roll with the punches. Discover more about yourself and each other as you keep on going. Sex is constant learning after all. So don’t pressure yourself into getting it right every single time you do it.
3. “He is probably bored of just having sex with me all of the time.”
Sometimes, it’s not really about who he’s having sex with; it’s about the kind of sex that you’re having. Just because you’re his only partner every single time doesn’t mean that the sex has to become stale and repetitive. Try being a little more adventurous and open to new experiences. Bring a little spontaneity into it and show him that you can be flexible.