If this is true for you, you’re ready for marriage.
Marriage is likely to be one of, if not the most significant step that two people can make in a relationship together. There’s just no downplaying how important a move it is for two people to forever cement their love for one another in matrimony. This is a lifelong commitment that two people make to each other and there’s no turning back. A lot of couples are going to approach this marriage thing differently. There will be some couples who will want to rush into it when they see that it’s the next logical step and there’s no point in waiting. There are other couples who will really want to take their time; they will really want to make sure that they’ve thought everything through before they make any rash decisions. And it doesn’t really matter which way you go. There are couples who get married on a whim and they last forever. There are couples who take so long before they decide to get married and they still end up breaking up. No one can really ever tell what the future holds for anyone. And the uncertainty is part of what makes the decision to get married to scary; but also liberating.
You don’t want to wait too long before you decide to spend forever with the person you know you’re destined to be with. But you don’t want to be committing yourself to anything that you might be incapable of sustaining either. You want to be able to strike that balance. You want to be sure about the decision that you’re making, but you also don’t want to take up too much time trying to come up with a decision either. So that’s why it’s important for you to always live in moderation. Look at your relationship and always be introspective about it. Reflect on the state of your romantic affairs and constantly think about what you can do to make things better. At the end of the day, it’s you who calls the shots. It’s you who makes the decision. You are the one who is in control here. You are the one who has to live with or without this relationship so everything is your call.
But to put your mind at ease and to help you have more structured thoughts, here is a checklist of some sort to help give you a better idea of your relationship is actually at a place that’s ready for you to start thinking about marriage. And so if a lot of the items on here actually apply to you and your partner, then the chances are that the both of you are really ready to seriously commit to one another.
1. You’ve discussed what your future as a couple already looks like and you have made concrete plans together.
It’s all about thinking in the long-term. Yes, you understand that it’s always important to be present in the moment that you’re in. But you also know that in order for a relationship to work, you have to engage in proper planning and preparation. You can’t just be taking each day as it comes. You need to be thinking about the future. You need to be mapping out the lives that you’re going to have together. And if you’ve already done that or if you’re open to doing it, then that’s a good sign that you’re actually ready to take the next step with one another. There are plenty of things that go into making a marriage work, and you need to be able to hash it all out with one another before you actually make that decision to tie the knot.
2. You’ve discussed the topic of having children and planning your future family.
A lot of couples go into marriages with the assumption that they’re starting families together. And of course, you’re going to have to talk about family planning before you actually decide to get hitched. You don’t want to already be married to your partner only for you to find out that even though you want kids, your partner doesn’t.
3. You go through life like a great team.
More than anything else, you are two people who just have each other’s backs. You are a romantic couple who has built a strong relationship on a solid friendship and that’s why the both of you just work very well together. You know you can always count on one another to be there whenever needed. You tackle life as a genuine couple; as a genuine team. You support each other to the best of your abilities. You inspire one another to always be better. You are both better as individual human beings because of your relationship.
4. You have a really strong communication game going on for you.
There are very few problems in a relationship that strong and open communication can’t solve. You would be surprised at how many issues are actually addressed with honest and open communication between two people. So if you feel like you have a strong communication game going for you, then perhaps marriage is definitely an option to consider moving forward.
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