Loyalty is something that is hard to come by these days. It’s not something that you can just expect from everyone. However, it’s something that you always want to demand for in a relationship. You can’t possibly sustain a romantic relationship when there is no loyalty and commitment from both parties. You always want to make sure that you are with someone who is going to be serious about being with you. You want to be with someone who is going to stay loyal and true to you. You want to be with someone who is always going to be faithful. And that’s why you want to play it safe by dating someone who has had no history of cheating. That’s a smart move, right? You’re practically guaranteed of a person who isn’t going to cheat on you, right? Well, not necessarily.
There is always a chance that your partner is going to cheat on you – regardless if they’ve cheated in the past or not. And it’s always devastating whenever you are a victim of cheating in a relationship. You put so much of your faith and trust in a person. But when they cheat on you, you realize that you invested so much of your emotions in the wrong person. And that can be a devastating realization to have. You don’t want to be giving so much of yourself to someone who is only going to throw all of your efforts away. You want to make sure that you aren’t being made a fool of. You owe it to yourself to always make sure that you aren’t being played by anyone. And that’s why you always need to stay on top of your own relationship.
Of course, you wouldn’t want to be someone who just always assumes that your partner is cheating on you. That’s such a cynical and pessimistic way to act in a relationship. However, when your instincts are telling you that something is off, you really need to listen to them. You have to take it upon yourself to make sure that you aren’t being played by the person you’re in a relationship with. And how exactly do you do that? Well, you can choose to keep an eye out for the signs. You can stay vigilant for the following red flags:
1. They belittle and demean you.
They want to destroy you and make you feel like you are less than you really are. They want to diminish your sense of confidence and self-esteem. They want you to believe that you are completely worthless so that they are able to somehow justify the infidelity and unfaithfulness in their own minds. They will make it seem that since you’re such a terrible human being, it’s okay to cheat on you.
2. They don’t necessarily think in the long-term with regards to your relationship.
They know that there is no chance for your relationship to last for the long haul anyway; and that’s why they don’t really take the time to plan things out with you. They are very impulsive and they are always just living in the moment. They don’t act as if they’re concerned about ensuring the longevity of your relationship at all. They just always stay in the present moment.
3. They are apologists for other people who have cheated in relationships.
They try to justify cheating and infidelity in the relationships of other people. They will try to make it seem like there are some very justifiable reasons for someone to cheat on another person. And their guilt won’t allow them to just not defend themselves. They are guilty of cheating on you and they want o justify their actions.
4. They act as if your relationship is a burden.
They don’t treat your relationship like it’s a privilege. In fact, they treat it as if it’s some kind of chore. They treat it as if it’s a kind of burden that they are forced to endure. They are obviously not happy about being with you. They find it to be such a hassle to be in a relationship with you; and that’s why they are likely to cheat on you.
5. You catch them flirting with other people a lot.
They have wandering eyes even when they’re in a supposed committed relationship with you. And that’s how you know that something is up. That’s how you know that you’re with someone who isn’t really interested serious about staying in love with you.
6. They downplay the commitment in your relationship.
They don’t really give much value or validation to the “label” that you have as a couple. They try to downplay the significance of the commitment that you have for one another. They are doing this as a form of safeguard for themselves. When they make it seem like you’re not really in an exclusive relationship, they can justify cheating on you.