You probably already know by now just how ineffective a communicator most men can be. And if you happen to be in a relationship with a guy who doesn’t know how to communicate his needs and wants too well, then know that you aren’t alone in this struggle. You have a man who is always just keeping his feelings to himself. It’s as if he’s expecting you to play the role of mind-reader all of the time. But you’re so sick and tired of having to figure things out without him telling you anything.
Communication is always going to be one of the most important aspects of any kind of relationship. And that’s why it would really benefit if the two of you have strong and open lines of communication with each other. You always want to make sure that the two of you are in sync and on the same page. That’s how the two of you are going to be able to get closer in your relationship and face your problems together.
But alas, you have a man who is practically a mute when it comes to discussing his feelings. He might still be uncomfortable when it comes to talking about his emotions. And as sad as it sounds, you’re going to have to pick up the slack here. Because if a lot of those feelings and emotions are left unaddressed, then you’re going to end up with a very volatile and toxic relationship.
There are a number of reasons as to why a guy might be unwilling to speak up about how he feels. Maybe he just feels like he isn’t in the right to speak about these things. Perhaps he’s too shy to actually talk about these feelings with you because he thinks that you would only be annoyed or bothered. Maybe as he was growing up, he was always taught to just keep quiet about how he feels and he has carried that on into his adulthood.
Whatever the case, it’s important that you make an effort to fish it out of him. If he refuses to meet you halfway on this, then you need to be able to go the extra mile for the sake of your relationship. You have to be the one who makes the adjustment on his behalf.
But you might still feel lost. You might be completely clueless or inexperienced on this front. You might not know how a man thinks or what he feels and so you don’t really know what to do. Well, that’s exactly what this article is going to be about. Highlighted in this list are going to be a few things that most men would typically be too afraid to talk to their girlfriends about.
Naturally, it’s always going to be a different situation for any kind of relationship. But at least this article is going to give you a good idea of where to start when it comes to figuring out what your man needs in your relationship. Here are a few things that your man might be too afraid of asking from you.
1. He wants to feel respected.
Respect isn’t necessarily something that most people would typically ask for. But it’s something that your partner is always going to deserve in the relationship. You need to check yourself and make sure that you aren’t acting disrespectfully towards him in any way.
2. He wants to feel more appreciated and valued.
A lot of the time, a man’s efforts and gestures can go unnoticed and unappreciated. That can hurt. He doesn’t really do nice things for you just so he can expect certain things from you. But it’s always nice to feel appreciated for something.
3. He wants you to be able to trust him.
He needs you to be able to trust him. He doesn’t want you to always be micromanaging him. He doesn’t need you to be grilling him and interrogating him every time he says he’s going out with some friends.
4. He wants to help you out with your problems.
Even though he knows that you are a strong and independent woman who can make it on your own, he still wants to make sure that he is able to help you out with your problems and issues in your personal life as well.
5. He wants to be on his own every once in a while.
Just because the two of you are in a relationship together doesn’t mean that he’s going to want to spend ALL of his time with you. He is still going to want his occasional time to himself in the relationship as well.
6. He wants you to initiate intimacy as much as he does.
He doesn’t want to always have to be the one who initiates intimacy with you. It will make him feel good that you want to get intimate with him just as much as he does.