The initial year of the marriage is always going to be the honeymoon phase. It’s when both partners are just so magically in love and everything seems so perfect and amazing. And there’s a reason for that. When a marriage is fresh, there aren’t so many problems that are presenting themselves just yet.
The challenges are yet to reveal themselves. That’s why it’s all blissful love that seems like there’s just no stopping these married couples. However, that can be very dangerous for a lot of couples. They get lulled into a false sense of safety and security even though they should always be staying vigilant in a relationship.
You might not know it but in the first year of your marriage, there are certain roles and responsibilities that you need to be fulfilling. It might feel like everything is so easy and simple because of your honeymoon period. It might feel like you’re doing absolutely fine and that you’re not doing anything wrong. But that’s where you need to be scared. You never want to be deluding yourself into thinking that everything is just fine and dandy.
But don’t worry. This article is going to help open your eyes to the many probable mistakes that you and your partner might be making in the first year of your marriage. And if you fail to address these mistakes, then you risk really compromising the integrity of your relationship.
You risk destroying your entire marriage’s future right at the beginning. And you don’t want that, do you? You always want to make it a point to do the right things to make sure that you have a fighting chance at making things work between you and your spouse. Avoid committing these mistakes within the first year of your marriage.
1. You stop being social with other people outside of your marriage.
There is a chance that you and your spouse will just want to keep to yourselves the whole time throughout the initial year of your relationship. Don’t do that. Remember that you have a social life that you still need to give some time and attention to.
2. You expect your partner to change somehow.
Nope. It’s not likely that your partner is going to change who they are just because you are married now. You have to accept the fact that the person you married is probably going to stay that way throughout the entire stretch of your marriage.
3. You walk away from arguments with your partner.
You will be really tempted to walk away from situations of conflict and confrontation in your marriage within the first year. You are going to be tempted to just walk away from arguments with your partner because you don’t want to mess up your honeymoon phase. But that’s not a good thing. You need to be brave enough to actually confront one another and address the issues that you have as a couple.
4. You don’t set or follow household responsibilities.
You always need to make sure that you set some responsibilities for yourselves in maintaining the household. And you need to make sure that you live up to those responsibilities as well. You can’t expect that your home is going to maintain itself. You need to put up some effort to do so.
5. You sweep your feelings under the rug.
You can’t afford to be sweeping your feelings under the rug. No matter how uncomfortable it might be to express some of your feelings, you still need to do so. You have to make sure that you always stay open and honest with your partner especially with regard to your feelings.
6. You don’t take some time for your individual selves.
Just because the two of you get married doesn’t mean that your individual selves cease to exist. You are still allowed to pursue your individual interests. You are still allowed to pursue your individual passions outside of your marriage.
7. You immediately jump into having a baby together.
You don’t have to pressure yourselves into expanding your family right away. It might be advisable for your marriage to take some time to just focus on yourselves first. Try to focus on building on your married life as a couple without any added stresses or responsibilities.
8. You don’t organize the finances together.
Managing your finances should be a team effort. You can’t be so lazy. You need to be a real mature adult and be hands-on with how your finances are going in your marriage. There are so many marriages that end as a result of finance-related conflict. You don’t want that for you and your partner. As early as the first year, you need to make sure that your financial management is on point.