Not all relationships are created equal. Just because you happen to be in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean that you’re going to be happy. There are plenty of things that could go into making a relationship work; and sometimes, things just don’t want out the way that you expect. OF course, granted that there are many variables that go into the overall makeup of a particular relationship, it might a little difficult for you to pinpoint just what it is in the relationship that is making you unhappy. Of course, you want to do whatever you can to get rid of this unhappiness. But what if you lack the self-awareness to actually seek out the problem in the first place? That’s exactly what this article is going to try to help you out with.
Yes, you’re stuck in an unfortunate situation and you want to try to be happy again. You don’t know if ending your relationship is the answer; and you don’t want to take such drastic measures at the risk of attracting more unhappiness into your life. Sometimes, the truth can be staring at you right in the face and your stubbornness is just blinding you to the reality of the situation.
Here are 10 obvious reasons that you’re unhappy in your relationship.
1. You’ve stopped putting in the effort in your marriage.
When you’re just starting out your relationship with someone, you are always going to be putting in maximum effort. You work hard to try to sustain your young love. However, as you get deeper into a stable relationship, you can grow complacent. And that complacency can be the root cause as to why your relationship just doesn’t give you fulfilment anymore.
2. You are caught in a “friends with benefits” type of scenario.
When you are caught in a “friends with benefits” type of situation, then you know that you have some serious commitment issues. You want all the perks of the relationship but none of the responsibility. And it’s that fear of commitment that is really making you unhappy about your whole situation.
3. You are an inherent narcissist.
Narcissists can just never be happy in relationships because they don’t allow themselves to fall in love with a person in the right way. And that’s why if you happen to be a narcissist, you can never be truly happy in a relationship with someone else. Your lack of selflessness is triggering all of your discontent.
4. You are just quite boring and one-dimensional.
You need to diversify your interests and passions if you want to really make your relationship work. If you are a one-trick pony who doesn’t have much complexity in your personality, then you can be very boring. And that boredom could be the trigger for your unhappiness.
5. You are stuck in the age of constant technology.
You have become impersonal. Your life is composed of yourself in front of some kind of computer screen. You are being constantly active in the virtual world; but in the real world, you don’t exist. You don’t live in the moment because you are too caught up in cyberspace.
6. You don’t practice basic human decency and respect.
When you fail to respect the people in your relationship, then you are bound to never earn that person’s respect in return. And when the person you’re in a relationship with just doesn’t respect you, then you know you’re not going to be happy with how you’re going to be treated.
7. You don’t let yourself become emotional.
Yes, you are protecting yourself from pain by disallowing yourself to feel. However, you are also depriving yourself of the opportunity to feel happiness, joy, excitement, and fulfilment. Being able to be in touch with your emotions is important – and you have to be able to take the good with the bed.
8. You are always thinking about what you’re missing.
You can’t be happy on the relationship that you’re in now because you are just far too caught up thinking about all the other relationships that you could be in. Sometimes, the best thing can already be staring you in the face and you could be taking it for granted. Remember the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
9. You don’t know how to get deep in conversations.
A bulk of what makes up a healthy and happy relationship is being able to have good conversation. And if you’re just always going to settle for small talk all of the time, then you’re never going to be able to connect with a person on an intimate level; the level that is required of a strong and healthy relationship.
10. You are far too damaged for your own good.
Maybe you’ve been in so many damaging and toxic relationships that you’re practically just over it at this point. You have been bent and broken so many times; and you haven’t recovered from these emotional wounds and scars just yet. Take some time to gather yourself before you jump into a relationship.