You have probably already encountered that one person who just goes in and out of relationships every few weeks or so. And it’s frustrating to witness that person just fall into the same trap every single time. You also know that they keep forcing themselves into wrong relationships just because they’re too afraid of not being in a relationship at all.
And unfortunately, that happens to be the case for so many of us. It just feels like we generally live in a society that makes it more and more difficult for us to be content with being single.
We are always so used to hearing people who say that “you should just wait for the right person to come along” or something along those lines. But it feels like not many people seem to take these words of wisdom all too seriously. But that shouldn’t really be the case.
More people should realize that dating someone just for the sake of dating is never going to be right. You are only going to end up wasting your time by forcing yourself into a situation that you’re not meant to be in.
You might fantasize about being able to find someone who you know would serve as your perfect match for life. You might daydream about being in a relationship that is going to bring with it a sense of fulfillment, joy, and happiness into your life. And that’s fine. It’s okay for you to want these things for yourself.
But it’s also important that you understand that love isn’t necessarily going to come into your life just because you want it to. It’s not necessarily going to walk into your life just because you think you’re ready. You have to actually make sure that you understand that your expectations are not always going to be met right away… and that’s okay.
It doesn’t matter how much you might love a person, you can never force that person to love you in return if things just aren’t a match. It doesn’t matter how invested you might be in a relationship, there is just no way that you would be able to make things work if you’re not compatible with one another.
It doesn’t matter how much you two would want to stay together. If it isn’t a good fit, then it just isn’t right for you and you need to learn to move on. Being stubborn is not an option. You need to know which battles you need to be fighting for. And it’s always foolish for you to be fighting a losing battle – even if it’s for love.
You shouldn’t really be investing so much of your time on a person who clearly just doesn’t belong in your life. You shouldn’t be settling for someone who isn’t going to motivate you to be the best version of yourself. You shouldn’t be forcing the issue with someone who doesn’t inspire you to grow and become a better human being.
You shouldn’t be afraid of cutting ties with someone just because you are afraid of being single and alone. You have to remember that just because you aren’t in a relationship doesn’t mean that you are going to be lonely and sad.
You have to stop letting the fear of being alone force you into relationships that aren’t right for you. You have to start being more comfortable with yourself. You need to really focus on being proud of the life that you have regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not.
Because at the end of the day, you need to realize that a relationship is never going to give you a sense of completion. That’s something that you’re going to have to find on your own. Your happiness can’t be dependent on your relationships. It has to be something that you are able to find within.
Once you learn that, it will be so much easier for you to say no to the relationships that aren’t right for you. Once you are more comfortable with yourself, it will be so much easier for you to detach yourself from the people who don’t really add much value to your life.
It’s not about you not giving love a chance. But rather, it’s about you placing your bets on the relationships that are actually worth betting on. You are not an infinite source of love.
There is only so much love that you can give to the world and to other people. That’s why you only want to be focusing on the relationship that you’re actually meant to be in. Love is far too precious of a commodity for you to be wasting.