Relationships are never easy. And anyone who goes into a relationship thinking that things are going to be simple will be kidding themselves. It can feel like falling in love is easy. It can feel like falling in love is the simplest thing in the world. And no one can blame you for feeling that way.
When you fall in love, it’s so instantaneous and exciting. It can feel like there are so many things happening and yet you are still able to have a sense of control over it all. Falling in love with someone can feel like everything in your life is falling into place. And no one would ever question you about that. However, what you have to know is that sustaining the love in a relationship is going to be very different.
Love in itself is a very complex feeling even when you feel like it’s the most natural feeling that you could ever experience in the world. Yes, love is a natural emotion. However, the things that go about sustaining and preserving a love have to come from a conscious effort. Love isn’t something that sustains itself by accident.
Love isn’t something that just lasts on its own. You have to be able to stoke that fire. You have to fuel that flame. You have to build that connection. You have to strengthen that passion. And you won’t be able to do that if you’re just going to keep on coasting.
You can’t strengthen your relationship if you’re just going to keep on staying in your comfort zone. A relationship isn’t designed to be comfortable and easy all throughout. A real relationship is always going to have some very serious issues, struggles, problems, hurdles, and challenges.
There are going to be a few things that will impede you and your partner on your path towards forever. And you have to make sure that you make yourself aware of these impediments if you are going to overcome them.
There are such things that are known as relationship makers and there are also going to be some relationship breakers. You have to know what the most important pillars of your relationship are going to be so that you will be able to strengthen it further.
The stronger the foundation that you have for your relationship, then the easier it will be for you two to deal with the issues and problems that may come your way as a couple.
Here are the 5 most important things (in random order) that can either make or break a relationship:
Never hold back from being intimate with one another. That intimacy can be physical or emotional. You must always make it a point to get closer to each other. You are going to be better equipped to handle challenges in your relationship if you are more intimate as a couple.
Communicate with one another at all times. Always make sure that you talk to one another. You want to make sure that you don’t hold anything back. Don’t keep each other in the dark.
Don’t try to hide things from each other. Be open. Be honest. Always make sure that your partner knows that you’re being communicative and open throughout the entire stretch of your relationship. That’s the only way you can really bond and connect with one another.
You will always want to make sure that you are working like a well-oiled machine. As a couple, you are bound to have your differences. And that’s fine. However, you should still find a way to come together and work as one. You have to find a way to come to a compromise whenever you go through certain disagreements.
You have to make sure that you meet each other halfway if you really want to stay on the same page. You might not always agree on everything but you must still always act as one team.
4. Mutual Respect
You must always maintain a sense of mutual respect between the two of you. There can be no relationship when there is no respect. You must always acknowledge each other as human beings who are worthy of respect. You must always hold on to your own dignity and respect your partner’s as well. At the base of it all, love is not going to be able to grow in a relationship if there is no proper respect.
Patience is always going to be of utmost importance in any kind of relationship. You have to understand that you are two imperfect and flawed individuals. You aren’t always going to do the right thing. You are not always going to make the right decisions.
And whenever that’s the case, it’s important that you are able to stay as patient with one another as possible. Stretch your patience and know that your flaws and mistakes shouldn’t serve as a deterrent to your love.